Sex Tips and Education

2010-04-02T10:42:00.000-07:00

The 10 Secrets of Great Sex

Adrenaline, intense attraction, or the things they know how to do in bed; what is it about a sexual encounter that makes it so great? A group of researchers set out to answer this question and have recently released their findings in an innovative study published in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality (CJHS) entitled "The Components of Optimal Sexuality: A Portrait of 'Great Sex". They focused their attention on identifying specific characteristics that comprise ‘great sex’. The investigation was conducted in the hopes of debunking sexual myths, and to offer an broader view based on a spectrum of sexuality. The outcome of such work offers a new way for people to view "human erotic potential and expand our understanding of what sex can be".

An Introduction to the Study

The data was accumulated from the answers collected in detailed interviews, which lasted anywhere between forty five minutes to two hours. The focal point of the questions was to learn more about optimal sexuality by learning about respondents' best sexual experiences, then tabulating their responses to come up with the most common factors. The study based their findings on a total of sixty four participants, encompassing a diverse sampling of population. Those interviewed were men and women, diverse in age range, ethnic origin and sexual orientation; some also identified themselves as polyamorous, practitioners of S&M, as well as Sex Therapists. Participants' ages ranged from twenty three to eight two years of age.

What Comprises Optimal Sex?

Sex is subjective. Many of the participants of the study put it this way, "no one can simply define 'great sex' for others". Yet their responses revealed a great deal of commonality, despite differences in lifestyles, ages and Sexual Orientation. Ultimately, the study illustrated that "there may be many routes to experience great sex, but the actual experience can be very similar across varying individuals".

Ten key components of phenomenal sexual experiences were identified during the course of research. Eight were deemed significant because they came up most often and were greatly emphasized by almost all respondents. The last two were characterized as insufficient in themselves to be necessary aspects of great sex, but were still considered by researchers as worthy of mention in the study.

1. Being present, focused and embodied

The state of feeling "totally absorbed in the moment", of being completely in tune with the sensations being experienced during great sex, was stated by interviewees most often and ahead of any other characteristic of an ideal sexual experience.

Another distinguishing aspect was the ability of respondents and their sexual partners to completely let themselves go during sex. They were unimpeded by distractions such as the mental ‘running commentary’ that many people have trouble shutting off.

2. Connection, alignment, merger, being in synch

Many of the respondents believed that a deep connection between two people, irrespective of the length of the relationship (hours to years), was a key component of optimal sexual union. Some described it as feeling synchronistic during intimate contact and a sense of merger, a "loss of personal boundaries, a distinct loss of ... self-awareness in the sense of separateness from the other". Others characterized it as a powerful energy and a sense of connectivity that kindles between two individuals.

Interestingly, with all this talk of merger and fusion, those who responded most passionately regarding this aspect of sex noted that the more grounded they were in themselves (with a strong sense of self), the more capable they were to let go with another. Additionally, they emphasized the need to set clear boundaries, accept themselves for who they are, and feel respected by their partner.

3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy

The essence of this category is to imagine the undercurrent of intimacy two people develop long before they actually have Sex . The panel asserted a powerful connection between erotic intimacy and a sense of safety/security in a relationship. This affinity can be derived by a "deep mutual respect, caring, genuine acceptance and admiration". As it relates to this category of intimacy, practically every one who participated in this study expressed the importance of a profound sense of trust between lovers.

4. Extraordinary communication, heightened empathy

The emphasis on communication doesn't stress individuals being technically skilled communicators as much as it underscores people's capacity to truly and freely share themselves. Participants articulated the importance of listening well and paying attention to verbal and non-verbal cues. They also reiterated the ability "to recognize (in a sexual capacity), even without being told told, what and when a particular kind of touch elicits a certain response in your partner and another does not." Non-verbal communication was seen as a vital component of transcendent sex. In order to successfully embody this element of sexuality interviewees stressed the responsibility of individuals to be emotionally mature enough to recognize their own needs and desires, in order to be able to convey them to their partners.

5. Authenticity, being genuine, uninhibited, transparency

One woman summed up these qualities as "sex where you can say anything and be anything". Authenticity in a sexual relationship involves individuals being entirely self-expressive, uninhibited and unself-conscious. With the results of this study continually building upon the importance of 'letting go' in relationships, the participants’ data proved another important corollary; being so completely genuine with another human being has an incredibly powerful effect emotionally and sexually. ‘Baring it all’ was considered by many to be liberating and an important component of amazing sex. It also gave permission to their partners to be free to do the same.

Respondents attributed much of their success in coming to such a state of confidence and genuineness, to letting go of restrictive sexual myths and unrealistic expectations as it relates to eroticism.

6. Transcendence, bliss, peace, transformation, healing

The feelings of “bliss, peace, awe, ecstasy and soulfulness” were the signature characteristics of extraordinary sex. Some likened the experience to the transcendent feeling reached during meditation (such as found in Tantric Sex), while it reminded others of timelessness and expansiveness. Being able to trust your sexual partner enough to let yourself experience such intensity was seen as the fundamental basis of these factors.

7. Exploration, interpersonal risk-taking, fun

Participants of this study explained that great sex was a vehicle for them to discover themselves. By taking risks and pushing their own sexual boundaries, respondents felt a sense of adventure and personal growth, which in turn fuels further development and discovery. Many of them also agreed on the following, “What's sex without a little fun and laughter?”

8. Vulnerability and surrender

The ability to give oneself over to their partner was a distinguishing factor between regular and amazing sex. Being willing to let go and feel vulnerable were among the characteristics that allowed individuals to achieve this state of interpersonal sexual abandon. There is a way to tell whether you're truly surrendering to sex with your lover; as one interviewee put it, in unexceptional relationships, "There's always some maybe small but detectable barriers, some things held back. In great sex, I think those (for me) disappear".

9. Intense physical sensation and orgasm

There were a range of opinions presented as to the role Orgasms play in great sex. Both men and women agreed that an orgasm was not necessary for a sexual experience to be considered exceptional. However, they noted that orgasms seemed to come naturally anyway when they were having 'great sex'. Some respondents also underscored the satisfaction they derived from a slow build up to pleasure.

10. Lust, desire, chemistry, attraction

A striking conclusion drawn from the results of these interviews was the role that lust and desire played in amazing sex. They made it onto the 'Top Ten' list not because they were valuable in and of themselves, but rather because of their impact when they're mutually experienced. Whether individuals were drawn to one another through lust or attraction, their compelling chemistry influenced their perception of sex positively.

Breaking Sexual Ground

The study found that there was a lack of valid research regarding the nature of great sex, citing that experts in the field of Sexual Health actually have "minimal data on the farther reaches of human sexual potential". It also pointed out that other studies have a tendency to not take into account the broader spectrum of sexual function; they either take a more black and white approach, or focus too attention on treating dysfunction.

Final Thoughts

One of the most significant outcomes of this study was that the actual 'acts' performed during sex were deemed inconsequential when compared to the "mindset and intent of the person or couple engaged in these acts". These findings draw powerful conclusions about sex and healthy functioning, namely that individuals need not look outside of themselves to achieve great sex. Too great a focus on the physical mechanisms of sex will not be as fulfilling overall as the emotional, spiritual and psychological benefits of being present, embodied and vulnerable during sex. Additionally, the study encourages "comfort with self, personal and interpersonal exploration, revelation and acceptance". If an individual can achieve this level of growth, they are more apt to take risks both sexually and psychically, and can discover erotic attributes that they did not even know they possessed!

2010-04-02T10:35:00.000-07:00

Sex Positions Guide

Over 100 3D Animated sex positions! Absolutely the best, all-new guide - presented like you will never have seen it before. It is jaw-droppingly exciting, inspiring & totally comprehensive! Click any individual thumbnail to get the full effect.

Looking for some variety to help transform that "same-old, same-old" night of lustlessness into one of fire and passion? No matter how good we are at what we do, even the best performance can get a bit boring without the occasional injection of fresh ideas!

Here are ideas to rejuvenate and re-inspire your approach to "getting it on". You have heard the saying that " a picture is worth a thousand words"... well that must make our presentation worth over 100,000!

Whether you are an athlete who wants to swing from the chandelier, or just someone looking for an easy alternative, you will find something here to fit the bill ... come on and take a look - we promise you won't be disappointed!!

All Sex Positions

Like to have everything at once? Here is the full list of 106 positions... downloading was never such fun!

69 Family

The 69 Family... easy, moderate and difficult to perform sex positions with both partners giving and receiving at the same time

Butterfly Family
Great for the edge of a bed or a counter, the butterfly family of positions is incredibly versatile, and the penetration is deep!
Cowgirl Family
When its time to take control / or a break, depending on your perspective, the cowgirl family of positions explores how to ride a pony!
Cunnilingus Family
As most cooks already know, it's always best to pre-heat the oven before putting in a loaf... so here is the Cunnilingus Family of positions!
Exotic Family
If your sex life is starting to feel a little routine, the exotic family of positions will help put the fire back in your loins!
Face to Face Family
When in the mood for a slower more intimate experience, the face to face family is great for kissing, necking, and maybe some sexy whispers...

Fellatio Family

Receiving fellatio would be high on the wish-list of most men. The fellatio family explores all the ways to treat your man!

Rear Entry Style Family

A combination of what used to be our Doggy Style and Rear Entry Families...

2010-04-02T09:38:00.000-07:00

Female Orgasm

Before You Get Started

Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm at all. The most common reason for this is that they don’t know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies, thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have been taught, and they often feel that “touching themselves does not bring pleasure”. There is some truth behind that - they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However, this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your partner.

If your woman has never had an orgasm (this is often the case if they say, "I think I’ve had one"), you will want to refer to the Female Masturbation Guide to get things started. Learning to please a woman who can’t orgasm on her own is extremely difficult, so we highly suggest that you start with getting her to play with herself, and allow her to learn how her body reacts to different stimulus.

The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms can’t be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to cum, the less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques, experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting frustrated when you aren’t seeing results, it will show, and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious, it takes away from the pleasure!

About Orgasms

There are two major types of orgasms a women can have - clitoral and G-spot (otherwise known as vaginal orgasms). When masturbating, women usually learn to get themselves off using their clitoris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the whole world of vaginal orgasms untapped. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren't familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. While you learn to read your partner's body signs, it never hurts to ask a question, especially if you are trying new techniques.

Coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's clitoral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus. One can incorporate manual stimulation to the clitoris during sex, but this is not very necessary if your woman has had vaginal orgasms in the past, and if you know how to hit the g spot correctly. To learn more about positions and the G-spot, please refer to the G-spot article and Sex Positions section. No one wants to involve geometry into sex, but it is wise to know which positions stimulate the G spot the best. In order to help her achieve a vaginal orgasm, you need to make sure you are "hitting" the G-spot with each stroke.

Many men fantasize about the myth of female ejaculation. Well, for starters, its no myth, most women should theoretically be able to have them. The key is G-spot stimulation, but all of this is also well described in the article on Female Ejaculation.

Some Ideas on Getting Her There:

First of, we would like to remind you to relax, and not to make her orgasm the purpose behind the encounter. The more of a goal you make it; the less likely it is that it will happen. Relax and enjoy yourselves, as that is the most important part.

The Grind

During Intercourse, you want to increase the pressure exerted on the woman's clitoris. This can be accomplished by rotating your hips just like when you are "grinding" on a dance floor. Try to really push against the front of her groin with the area just above the penis. Rocking back and forth or side to side is a really good way of getting started.

Rule of Thumb

With the woman sitting on top, the man should lie flat on his back, pelvic tilted upward, and stomach muscles tightened. You want to arch your hips upwards to improve the quality of “the Grind”; this can be achieved easily by putting a pillow under the man’s bum. He then should put his hand over the woman’s pubic region, and place his thumb on the woman’s clitoris. While the woman is riding her partner, he can simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.

T Position

With the woman lying on her back, the man should lie perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming the ‘T’), while straddling the woman’s far leg. Depending on the woman’s flexibility, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the clitoris for manual stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big “O” really quickly.

The Maximizer

The woman lies on her back, legs tightly held together. The man lies on top, or stands/kneels, in front. Instead of being directly in line with her, the man should be at a slight diagonal. Both of her legs should be over one shoulder, or on one side, of his body; he should begin penetration. This position is designed to maximize female clitoral stimulation and is easiest to perform with the man standing or kneeling (i.e. the woman should have her legs hanging off a counter, couch or bed).

Using Sex Toys

Sex toys can be used in virtually any sexual position, and thanks to the creative people who design toys, if you can think of a toy, chances are its already made. If you have never used one, you can read our comprehensive section on buying and using Sex Toys. Then visit our online store to find products designed to increase stimulation during intercourse or masturbation. The following is a summary of some of the most popular types of toys:

Vibrating Clitoral Suckers

This class of products works as follows: put the cup part of the toy over the clitoral area, squeeze the pump a couple times to build up some suction, then turn on the vibrating egg, which is generally attached to the cup. The suction is great because it draws more blood to the clitoris, making it more sensitive, as well as it keeps the toy hands free. It can be used during intercourse to add incredible sensations, but some varieties may prove a little bulky for some positions.

Regular Vibrators

For those of you who are looking for something with a little more functionality, we recommend getting a regular vibrator. The can be held in place during intercourse to stimulate whatever you want, they can be inserted anally, and can be used on their own as well. They are available in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes.

Vibrating Cock Rings

This class of products is ingenious! The toy is basically a ring with one or more vibrating eggs attached. Simply slide it down the shaft of the penis, turn on the vibrating eggs, and voila, super pleasure for both parties.

Play O (UTOPIA) Orgasmic Gel by Durex

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2010-04-02T08:27:00.000-07:00

Average Penis Size

The age-old question, "Am I well hung?" Well, before going on to see where you stand, or should we say hang, remember that size isn’t everything. Most women prefer a man with a less then average Penis and great at Cunnilingus, to a man with a larger penis and no skills. Furthermore, you should never worry about your size; it will only lead to anxieties and potentially a variety of sexual dysfunctions.

If you are racing forward to find out what the average penis size is to see if you are ok, stop. Read the first paragraph again. The purpose of this article is not so that men can come and see if they are “big enough”, it‘s purpose is to satisfy curiosity, and to reiterate to all the self conscious males out there that size is not everything.

One of the reasons that men are so self-conscious about this has to do with illusions. When men are in the locker room, they can’t help but glance around the room to see how they measure up. Unfortunately, there is a very different angle looking down than across the room, so men become paranoid that they are too small. Also, a man’s limp size has very little indication to his erect size. Furthermore, most men start getting paranoid about it before they have finished growing.

That being said (hopefully not ignored) penis size consists of two components, length and circumference. Although most studies in this area vary slightly in the findings, the average erect penis length is 5.5 to 6.5 inches, and the average circumference is 4.5 to 5 inches.

Penis Length

Your erection length is defined as the linear distance along the dorsal (top) side of the erect penis, from the mons veneris to the tip of the glans. In non-medical jargon, your penis is measured in a straight, or for some arced, line on the topside of the erect penis, from where your belly meets the shaft to the tip of your penis. Take multiple measurements over the course of a few days and then average the values. Since your erections can vary slightly depending on your level of arousal, mood, room temperature, and even the duration since your last sexual encounter, averaging out a few measurements will let you get a more accurate read.

Penis Circumference

Penis circumference is defined as the linear distance around the widest part of the erect penis. Whether you use a piece of string or a fabric ruler, you should wrap it around the widest part of your penis, one time. If using string, make sure it is not stretchy, and mark the string at the correct spot and then measure the portion with a ruler. As with penis length, this should be done over a few days and the result averaged out.

Does Size Matter?

The second most famous question; "Is it the size of the ship, or the motion of the ocean?"... Both are correct, so yes, size does matter. Anyone who tells you differently is not being completely truthful. As covered in other sections, the majority of a woman's nerve endings are in the first couple inches of her vagina, so exactly how much size matters is a controversial topic. Most women agree that an average size penis, along with an understanding of Her Genital Regions will get the job done. In fact, they would prefer that to a large penis as it could come along with a lot of pain for the first few times together for them. For those dreaming for an 8+ inch penis, just remember that it doesn’t always come in as handy as you think. Having a large penis decreases your chances of your partner being willing to have Anal Intercourse, as well as Deep-throating.

2010-04-02T08:21:00.000-07:00

Male Ejaculation/Orgasm

The formal definition of male ejaculation is “the release of semen from the penis”. During sexual stimulation, semen collects in the ejaculatory ducts located where the vas deferentia join seminal vesicles within the prostate gland. When stimulation reaches climax, a spinal reflex causes contractions to the muscles within the penis, urethra, and the prostate gland. These contractions propel the semen through the urethra and out of the tip of the penis. Although male ejaculation and orgasm occur simultaneously in most cases, they are not the same process. An orgasm, specifically, is the rhythmic muscular contractions that are a release of accumulated sexual tension and result in an intensely pleasurable sensation.

The rhythmic contractions occur initially at 0.8-second intervals, just as in women, and account for the spurting action of the semen during ejaculation. The intervals between contractions become longer and the intensity of the contractions tapers off after the first three or four contractions. Semen usually takes a few seconds to appear … ejaculatory inevitability (the point at which stopping is impossible) … because of the distance the fluid has to travel. During ejaculation, the sphincter of the urinary bladder is tightly sealed to keep urine from mixing with the semen, as well as making sure that the fluid travels forward, or out.

There are a surprising 20 million sperm/ml of seminal fluid, and average ejaculation consists of 1.5-5ml. Semen contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid, fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin B12, and zinc -- but all in very modest quantities. Some of this is designed to nourish the semen enroute, while other ingredients are designed to neutralize the acidic environment of the vagina (which would normally be inhospitable to Sperm). In case you are wondering, most of these ingredients are indeed very healthy, and an average ejaculation contains only about 15 calories.

Since orgasms and ejaculation are separate, it is possible to have either without the other.

In situations where ejaculation occurs on its own, there are two main causes. In the first, involuntary ejaculation occurs during sleep, and is known as nocturnal emission (formally) or a wet dream (in slang). The second main cause is known as Premature Ejaculation), which is a sexual condition in which a man consistently feels he has little or no control over the timing of his build up to ejaculation.

Orgasm can occur without ejaculation. Retrograde ejaculation is a condition where the bladder's sphincter does not close off properly during ejaculation, so semen flows into the bladder. It is commonly found in men who have multiple sclerosis, diabetes, or after some types of prostate surgery. Before you get worried, it can also occur occasionally in men who do not have any serious problems. It is not physically harmful, but it can render the man infertile and he may have a different sensation during ejaculation. This condition is also known as a "dry come" because the man may experience orgasm, but no semen is released from the penis.
There is also a condition known as retarded ejaculation, ejaculatory incompetence, or delayed ejaculation. It is a sexual condition in which a man is unable to ejaculate even though he is highly sexually aroused.

2010-04-02T07:38:00.000-07:00

Female Ejaculation

An even greater mystery to most people than Female Orgasm is female ejaculation. Although we may have heard stories about friends who can ejaculate, or who have been with women who can ejaculate, many of us have never actually experienced it first hand. When asked to describe the ejaculations, responses are often quite similar, "It's liquid, it's clear, it's wet, and it squirts". Beyond this, the details have always been quite sketchy.

Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.

Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G-spot Stimulation. When the G-spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid. Women who can ejaculate often hold back, thinking that it is urine. The exact source of the ejaculate is still debated by researchers, but it does appear to come out of the urethra (like urine) and/or nearby Skene's Gland, so that is where the confusion takes place.

So what's left? You might want to learn how to get someone to ejaculate, or how to do it yourself. Like exploring everything else new in your experience of sex, you should work towards it, but not put unnecessary stresses on yourself by making it your goal. Also, it is not known whether all women are able to ejaculate, so if you or your partner is unable to - don't worry, but perhaps keep trying once in a while. As you already know, the ejaculate comes from the urethra or Skene's Gland, so it feels a lot like urine.

Apart from those who love 'golden showers' (the fetish of urinating on, or being urinated on), many people do not feel comfortable enough to risk urinating on or around their partner. It may be a good idea to allow yourself or your partner some privacy to understand this function of their body; at the very least let your partner now that you are excited about it, not grossed out. That being said, great places to try this out include the shower or bathtub, in or near water, or on top of some old blankets that you don't mind getting wet.

Indahnya Anatomi VAGINA Wanita

2010-04-02T03:48:00.000-07:00

Saat pertama kali wanita berhubungan intim, maka selaput daranya akan robek. Biasanya, kaum hawa yang baru bersanggama juga mengalami rasa sakit dan perih.

Apakah kondisi ini selalu dialami perawan?

Istilah keperawanan ditujukan untuk wanita yang memang belum pernah berhubungan intim sebelumnya. Keberadaan selaput dara yang utuh, sering kali dijadikan bukti fisik keperawanan.
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Jika Anda penasaran mengenai selaput dara dan organ genital kaum hawa, maka Wendy Darvill dan Kelsey Powell dalam bukunya The Puberty Book bisa menjawabnya.
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”Semasa gadis, jalan masuk vagina tertutup sebagian oleh selembar kulit yang amat tipis yang disebut selaput dara (himen). Pada masa remaja, vagina juga berkembang, dan selaput dara kemungkinan tertarik melebar atau dapat pula robek. Biasanya, ini dapat diakibatkan pada saat si gadis berolahraga, melakukan masturbasi, atau menggunakan tampon,” jelas Wendy Darvill dan Kelsey Powell.
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Jika selaput dara tidak robek dalam usia pubertas, lubang kecil yang sudah ada sejak seorang wanita dilahirkan masih memungkinkan darah menstruasi mengalir.
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Sedangkan alat kelamin wanita yang berada di luar disebut pukas (vulva atau mons veneris). Bagian atas pukas terdiri dari jaringan lemak yang menggunung, yang ditutupi oleh gunung rambuber (mons pubis).
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Di bawahnya ada dua lipatan kulit yang disebut bibir luar (labia majora) dan bibir dalam (labia minoria). Bibir luar juga tertutup rambut sesudah masa pubertas. Jika kedua paha wanita dirapatkan, bibir luar akan saling merapat. Bibir dalam akan kelihatan bila kedua paha dibuka. Bibir dalam lebih tipis daripada bibir luar dan peka terhadap sentuhan. Kedua bibir ini basah, karena adanya suatu cairan pelicin yang diproduksi oleh kelenjar-kelenjar di bibir (labia) itu.
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Sedangkan vagina sendiri adalah saluran yang dindingnya berotot dan panjangnya sekira 10 sentimeter, yang menuju ke rahim (uterus atau womb). Darah menstruasi keluar dari tubuh melalui vagina. Dinding vagina saling bersentuhan dan permukaannya berlipat-lipat.
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Jika wanita menggunakan tampon saat menstruasi, otot inilah yang akan menahan tampon pada posisinya. Pada saat persalinan, vagina dapat meregang agar si bayi dapat keluar.
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Kelenjar-kelenjar dalam vagina menghasilkan cairan yang menjaga kebersihan dan kelembapannya. Bila seorang wanita terangsang gairah seksualnya, saluran vagina dapat melebar, menjadi lebih panjang dan lebih basah.

Ada 7 (tujuh) Jenis VAGINA Wanita

2010-04-02T03:40:00.000-07:00

Vagina (dari bahasa Latin yang makna literalnya "pelindung" atau "selongsong") atau puki adalah saluran berbentuk tabung yang menghubungkan uterus ke bagian luar tubuh pada mamalia dan marsupilia betina, atau ke kloaka pada burung betina, monotrem, dan beberapa jenis reptil. Serangga dan beberapa jenis invertebrata juga memiliki vagina, yang merupakan bagian akhir dari oviduct. Vagina merupakan alat reproduksi pada mamalia betina, seperti halnya penis pada mamalia jantan.
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1. Mutasyahhimah, yaitu perempuan yang vaginanya dipenuhi lemak. Perempuan semacam ini tidak mendapatkan kenikmatan kecuali dari penis yang panjang sehingga bisa mencapai jarak terjauh.
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2. Lizqah, yaitu perempuan yang vaginanya termakan oeh daerah-daerah yang ada di sekitarnya. Lemak di dalamnya sedikit. Dan daging yang tersisa menempel dan menggantung pada bagian atasnya. Perempuan semacam ini menyukai penis yang diameternya lebar.
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3. Qa’ra, yaitu perempuan yang vaginanya cekung karena syahwatnya yang besar dan nafsunya yang melampaui batas. Penis yang paling disukainya adalah yang diameternya lebar dan kepalanya besar agar dapat memenuhi tempat-tempat yang ada di dalam dan mengalirkan nikmat kepadanya.
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4. Jaufa, yaitu perempuan yang sisi-sisi vaginanya berongga dan jarak antara kedua bibir serta sudut-sudutnya jauh. Vagina semacam ini tidak dapat dipenuhi kecuali oleh penis yang panjang dan besar. Biasanya dimiliki oleh perempuan yang tinggi.
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5. Mutkhamah, yaitu perempuan yang bagian bawah dan bagian atas vaginanya sama. Syahwatnya kecil dan orgasmenya cepat. Perempuan semacam ini menyukai laki-laki yang goyangannya kuat dan orgasmenya cepat.
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6. Syafra’. yaitu perempuan yang daging kedua sisi vaginanya tipis. Perempuan semacam ini menyukai penis yang panjang dan kecil.
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7. Munhaniqah, yaitu perempuan yang dinding-dinding vaginanya tebal pada bagian luar dan kurang berisi pada bagian dalam sehingga syahwat tertahan di dalamnya. Perempuan semacam ini menyukai penis yang besar dan diameternya lebar, urat-uratnya keras dan kepalanya sangat besar.

7 Tip for Sex in the Shower

2010-04-01T08:37:00.000-07:00

For some people, sex in the shower proves to be a carnal challenge. Some feel uncomfortably confined while they’re in the stall, while others get too distracted by the thought of slipping and falling. However, although it takes some creative manoeuvring, there are many advantages to this very wet form of sexual activity.

Why it’s Great

The shower is the most natural place to be naked, and getting intimate there creates a novel twist to your sex life. Having steamy hot water run down your bodies can be extremely seductive, which also seriously increases your chance of getting lucky. The setting is naturally conducive to sensual caress, oral attention and deep Kissing. It’s an efficient, no fuss way to get off, and comes in especially handy when you don’t have privacy or when time is a constraint. It’s refreshing and invigorating, which is great for those who fall into a coma-like sleep after they cum. It’s also very suitable for those who suffer from the adverse effects of chronic body odor.

Doing it in the shower is a highly effective form of Foreplay, as well as a perfect opportunity to get a quickie in. Shower sex can be the place where the main event takes place or a deliciously clean precursor to getting dirty everywhere else in the house. Though, you don’t necessarily need to leave the bathroom. The shower is a great transition to or from having sex on the sink counter, in front of the bathroom mirror, or up against the wall; you can use the toilet (with the lid down) as a seat while you give head or as a prop for sex positions like Doggy Style - Standing.

So now that you’re all fired up to get wet, check out our tips for shower sex – they’ll help make it sexy every time you step under the spritzer.

1. Safe is Sexy

Please be careful when getting down in the shower. It’s very easy to slip, so take precautions to avoid any unnecessary, let alone embarrassing, injuries. Here are a few suggestions. Make sure your shower floor is clean of any soapy or oily residue. While at play, use bath products carefully; you can easily lose your footing on a slick body scrub. Although steamy can be sexy, provide adequate ventilation to prevent anyone from getting faint or dizzy.

If you don’t have ledges or handles to hold on to, head down to the local hardware store and see if you can find handles or towel rods that can securely adhere to the shower wall. They provide added support and stability for the couple, and if positioned right, can boost eroticism. (Try sticking them on the ceiling or higher up along the wall.) Avoid slippery floors by using adhesive grips or a rubber mat. If you need a boost, an option to check out is a sturdy, rubber-bottomed stool.

2. Make it Spic and Span

Soap scum and piles of hair in the drain take the magic away from shower sex – and fast. A bathroom that’s well prepared for sex includes a sanitized shower stall, a fresh scent, and clean towels. Avoid clutter by removing unnecessary stuff off counters and the shower caddy. Post coitus, make sure that all leftover bodily fluid is rinsed away; if not, it can leave a sticky residue that’s hard to clean.

3. Set the mood

Be prepared for anything and everything. Many of the same accessories you keep handy for lovemaking in the bedroom are useful in the bathroom; candles and scented Massage oil are a must. Have nicely scented soap on hand, but use it with care! For many women, not only does it lead to an uncomfortable reaction when it contacts the vagina, the irritation may linger for days afterward. Opt for lots of foreplay to get lubricated and keep a bottle of silicone (not water-based) lube on hand. One of the few downsides of shower sex is that water quickly washes away natural lubrication, so have some extra handy!

4. Clean Each Others’ Nooks and Crannies

Washing one another is an intimate and seductive act. Both of you come out clean, smelling fresh and feeling confident, all of which help put you in the mood. Use a sponge, bath mitt or soft washcloth and lather each others` bodies with a mild soap or gentle shampoo. Take your time to caress sensitive areas and feel free to sneak in a tongue or a finger.

This activity is a natural lead in for other sensual stuff like Oral Sex, erotic shaving, Analingus, and Anal Sex. If you’ve always wanted to try some racier oral sex positions, the shower’s the place to do it; we recommend trying Eve’s Ecstasy, Jack Hammer or Forbidden Fruit. And, when it comes to the ladies, make sure you spend enough time getting her really turned on – a common complaint from women is that shower sex takes too much concentration without enough pleasure.

5. Water Toys

What a great place to introduce a sex toy! Consider the fun you could have with a waterproof vibe. There are also splash-proof, hands-free options available that can be worn by either a man or a woman. How about a Dildo that you could suction to the shower wall? If you don’t have any Sex Toys suitable for water play, use tools that are located right at your fingertips. If you don’t have one already, a quality shower head is the best investment into your sex life in the shower. As one of the most common ‘sex toys’ that women start out Masturbating with, not only will she appreciate the gesture, she’ll also love all those fan dangled spray and massage options.

6. Appropriate Sex Positions

Prepare an arsenal of passionate poses to steam it up in the bathroom. If there’s a significant height or body size difference, it’s all the more reason to have some practised in your mind. In addition, be mindful of positioning yourselves so that water isn’t spurting into one another’s face.

The most appropriate positions are variations on the standing Rear Entry position, Bodyguard. Have her put her hands up against the wall and spread her legs, as though she were getting frisked, and penetrate her from behind. Get her to bend right over as in Ben Dover and then support her by the wrists in Prison Guard.

If you want gaze into each others’ eyes, try some of these face to face poses. If differing heights don’t get in the way, be on your feet in a sort of standing Missionary; then, get a leg over in Dancer, one of the most popular positions for the shower. If you can really get a leg over, try Ballerina. Another hot shower position is to hold her up entirely, shown in Stand & Carry.

When you need to take a break, get down on your knees and try kneeling Missionary, Bended Knee, or some good old Doggy Style. If you want to be able to sit for a while, do the Lotus.

7. Make the Best of What You’ve Got

You may not own the shower you’ve always fantasized about having sex in but, whether it’s big or small, use what you’ve got to your advantage. If you’ve got a tight space with nowhere to sit or rest a leg, you’ll have the most fun with standing positions. Press her against the wall of the shower and penetrate her from behind; the coolness of the shower wall will be an invigorating contrast to the hot action going on behind her.

If her legs are long enough, she can use the walls of the shower to hold herself up as he presses her body against the wall for Face to Face penetration. Wrapping a leg around his hip or leg is also a great way for her to maintain balance during Intercourse. When you need to use a restful pose, throw some towels down on the shower floor and use them to have sex on while you’re on your knees.

For those of you who’ve got a shower seat or a bathtub, enjoy the convenience. Use the seat and ledges to prop up a leg or to brace against; find creative ways to incorporate the bathtub ledge into intercourse. Since you’re not as confined with space, why not try positions like Bulldog and Cowgirl.

Final Thoughts

With all of these great reasons to get dirty while you’re getting clean, why not try getting it on in the shower! Whether you use it to start off a night of fantastic lovemaking, or as a quick way to get off, the shower is an un-sung winner.

There are 7 (seven) Type of a woman's vagina

2010-04-01T08:14:00.000-07:00

Vagina (from Latin, literally meaning "protector" or "shell") or the vulva is a funnel-shaped tube that connects the uterus to the outside of the body in female mammals and marsupilia, or to the cloaca in female birds, monotrem, and several species of reptiles. Insects and several species of invertebrates also have a vagina, which is the final part of oviduct. Vagina is on the mammalian female reproductive organs, like the penis in male mammals.
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1. Mutasyahhimah, which is filled with fat women vagina. Such women do not get enjoyment unless the penis length so that it can reach the farthest distance.
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2. Lizqah, ie women who consumed oeh vagina areas around them. A little fat in it. And the meat is left attached and hung on the top. These women love big penis diameter.
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3. Qa'ra, namely the vagina in women because syahwatnya large concave and desires that transcend borders. Her favorite penis is the width and head diameter in order to meet the great places that are in favor and stream.
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4. Jaufa, namely women vagina hollow sides and the distance between the two lips and the corners far. This kind of vagina can not be met except by long and large penises. Usually owned by women is high.
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5. Mutkhamah, namely women who are the bottom and the top of the vagina together. Syahwatnya orgasms small and fast. These women liked men who rocking orgasms stronger and faster.
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6. Syafra '. ie women who both sides of her vagina meat thinly. These women like long penis and small.
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7. Munhaniqah, namely women who are thick walls of the vagina on the outside and less contained on the inside so that the lust stuck in it. These women love big penis and large diameter, hard veins and the head is very big.
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Beautiful Women Vagina Anatomy

2010-04-01T08:00:00.000-07:00

The first time women have sex, then the membrane will be torn daranya. Typically, new womanhood copulate also experience pain and tenderness.

Is this condition always experienced a virgin?

The term of virginity is intended for women who had never had sex before. The presence of an intact hymen, is often used as physical evidence of virginity.
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If you're curious about the hymen and genital organs of womanhood, then Wendy Darvill and Kelsey Powell in his book The Puberty Book can answer it.
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"As a girl, covered most of the vaginal entrance by a very thin piece of skin called the hymen (hymen). At puberty, the vagina is also growing, and probably attracted the hymen can also be widened or torn. Usually, this can be caused when the girl exercising, masturbating, or using tampons, "explained Wendy Darvill and Kelsey Powell.
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If the hymen is not torn at the age of puberty, a small hole that has existed since a woman is born still allow menstrual blood to flow.
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While a woman's genitals outside called fanny (vulva or mons veneris). The upper part consists of fatty tissue cunt who were mounting, which is covered by mountains rambuber (mons pubis).
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Underneath there are two folds of skin called the outer lips (labia majora) and the lip inside (labia minoria). Outer lip is also covered with hair after puberty. If the woman's thighs pressed together, lips pressed against each other outside. Lip in the second leg will be visible when opened. Lip is thinner than the outer lips and sensitive to touch. Both lips are wet, due to a lubricant fluid produced by glands in the lips (labia) that.
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Whereas the vagina itself is muscled and the walls of a channel length of approximately 10 centimeters, which led to the womb (uterus or Womb). Menstrual blood out of the body through the vagina. Vaginal wall and its surface contact with each other many times over.
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If women use tampons during menstruation, muscle is what will hold a tampon in position. At the time of childbirth, the vagina can stretch so that the baby can come out.
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Glands in the vagina produces fluid that maintaining cleanliness and moisture levels. When a woman is sexually aroused, the vaginal canal can be widened, becoming longer and more wet.